Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Quiverfull Through Adoption

God does not grow every family in the same way.
Nor does everyone have the same convictions about children.
This is our story. This is our conviction.

When we were first married (6/95) we had wonderful Godly examples around us of how large homeschooling families worked. We didn't know why these families were continuing to have children and we never asked, we just knew we liked what we saw. Late in the same year we felt pulled to relinquish control to the Lord and stopped using birth control. At this point we had never heard of the quiverfull mindset, so we actually came about our quiverfull conviction before we even knew what that meant. We knew that the Lord is "the giver of life" (1 Timothy 6:13) and that "Blessed is the man whose quiver is full" (Psalm 127:1-5), but we didn't understand the strength of those promises. Also, at this point our conviction was primarily on how many children the Lord would bless us with, not on medical intervention, etc. People would ask us how many children we wanted to have and we would respond with, "As many as the Lord wants to give us, ten maybe?" On a side note, before we were married we both felt a strong urge to adopt. It is amazing to look back at the convictions and desires that He instilled in us before we had any concept of how those would come to fruition. We waited and waited and waited. To this day I have never conceived through God-given natural conception.

Several years into our shaping journey I was diagnosed with stage four endometriosis and we took steps to resolve it. The doctors gave us a choice: have a hysterectomy or have a baby (at which point we had been trying for several years). Our steps led us to in-vitro (not a quiverfull mindset). Only God can make a baby and He did. He made two. I miscarried in my first trimester. But the Lord heard my cry! He reminded us of our first conviction to adopt. He said to us, "As many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. The Spirit himself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God." (Romans 8:14-16)

God continued to shape us as we sought which direction to go to adopt. We took every required adoption class for every possible direction (infant domestic, international, domestic, older child). He brought us to a place of understanding that His intention was to fill our quiver with what our desires had been at each stage of our lives together. We became approved for foster care and adoption. He had blessed us with years of being "us" and then brought to us our precious baby boy. Five months later we had a girl and 2 years after that we had a boy and a girl. Today they are 10, 7, 4 and 3.

God continues to grow our family as we seek His face. We rely on His promise that a quiverfull is a blessing that He desires for us and then we pray that the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) would reign in us as we teach, love, encourage and discipline our children unto godliness (1 Timothy 4:7-8). People ask us how many we are going to adopt and we still say, "As many as the Lord wants to give us, ten maybe?" Our family verse is James 1:27, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this, to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." Whether by adoption or by birth, our children are the blessings that God intended for us and we will not stand in His way as He continues to pour them out on us. We don't want to limit God and what He intends for us. We trust Him knowing that His plans are for good (Jeremiah 29:11).

*Please click here to watch the Dave Thomas Foundation video on the fost-adopt system.

*There were 114,000 adoptable children in the foster care system as of November 2007.


Sunydazy said...

Thank you for sharing your inspiring story! My own brother and his wife have adopted 2 children through the foster system. They also have 2 by birth. God is so good to bring along children as He wills!

Lisa Metzger - 2nd Generation of Homeschooling said...

I looked for a link to e-mail you, but didn't see one. Anyway, I thought you'd like to hear this radio show on the Biblical reasons for adoption! http://www.callingfortruth.org/loggeraudio/CFT-10-18-2007.mp3 It's really good!

Lisa Metzger
Helpmeet to the gatekeeper of our home - Mark, Keeper of Our Home, 2nd Generation Homeschool Mommy to 7 blessings thus far:
Annalise (15 - adopted from Kazakhstan at age 10), Kaitlyn (8), Ethan (7), Trey and Jake (6 & 3 - adopted from MO 6/07), Julia (2), and Ellie Grace (5 Months)!
Come for a visit: http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/carolinametzgers

**The safest way to be sure Scripture supports your position is to ignore those passages you don’t like ~ Robert K. Johnson**

**Children are probably the only gift [from God] that we no longer desire in abundance ~ From the Book, Passionate Housewives Desperate for God**

charlotte said...

Hi there, I found your blog through a comment you made on kimc's blog. I was so blessed by your story. Our story is similar to yours in many ways. And different. We have one little boy who we brought home just over a year ago. We hope to bring home 2 more little ones by the end of the year. Though I have never posted our full story on my blogs, last Friday's post gives an overview of where God has us now, if you are interested. God Bless you and yours!

Brook said...

Very neat story! I found this when searching for info on Rob Biagi, and I'm glad I did! God bless your beautiful family!

The Barreness said...

I just read this post, but have been following your blog for a while. just happened to come across this particular post on "accident."

This is our story. Lol! I need to write it out for my blog too, but it's almost exactly our story, save for the conception part. We've been able to conceive many times, but never carry to full term.

We too, are quiverfull.

And I am loving your blog!

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